The Back To You Method™

A structured, child-centred method for protecting, strengthening, and rebuilding the parent-child relationship - through and beyond separation.

The Back To You Method™ was created to help parents navigate separation with greater clarity, confidence, and hope. Small changes in a parent's responses can create meaningful changes in the parent-child relationship over time.

Whenever it is safe and possible,
every child deserves a meaningful relationship with both parents.

Understand What Is Happening

Gain deep clinical clarity on the emotional dynamics behind your child's defensive behavior and withdrawal.

Steady Yourself

Develop absolute composure and emotional independence. A calmer parent creates a safer relationship.

Understand the Dynamic

Recognize hidden systemic patterns and external influences that shape the current parent–child estrangement.

Rebuild Communication

Master specific templates and low-pressure contact techniques that feel completely emotionally safe for your child.

Reconnect and Sustain

Nurture trust through systematic patience, consistency, and small, safe moments of genuine emotional connection.

Child-Centred

Every step is constructed around the safety, psychological maturity, and emotional pacing of the child.

Calm over Confrontation

We substitute aggressive legal and personal escalations with measured, quiet dignity that disarms hostility.

Connection over Conflict

Our techniques bypass defensive blocks to nurture direct, private, and highly authentic emotional bonds.

Designed for Lasting Change

Not a quick fix. We establish durable relationship behaviors that protect parent-child bonds for years.

Professional & Practical

Built alongside leading specialists in family conflict, childhood psychology, and custody mediation.

The Origin Story

How the Method Was Created

Developed through years of intensive clinical practice, child psychology research, and mediation. BTY is the direct answer to traditional therapy models that often fail under the extreme pressures of high-conflict family separations.

Clinical Research

Synthesizing Family Systems Theory

Analyzing the deep psychological impacts of parental alienation and childhood loyalty conflicts during divorce.

Framework Design

Formulating Structural Protocols

Drafting the initial de-escalation framework focused on a parent's emotional composure and strategic communication.

Validation

Refining with Family Law Experts

Iterating our curriculum alongside child advocates, family law judges, and expert mediators.

Leadership

Meet the Founder - Uliana Feldserov

Educator, family separation specialist, therapist, and doctoral researcher.

Uliana Feldserov's professional background combines education, family support, coaching, and research, with a long-term mission of protecting the parent–child relationship during and after separation.

Alongside her professional work, Uliana has also experienced family separation from both perspectives.

As a child, she grew up separated from one of her parents. Years later, after her own separation, she experienced the profound pain of becoming a rejected parent herself. Rebuilding the relationship with her own child became one of the experiences that helped shape the Back To You Method™ and deepened her understanding of what children and parents need when relationships are under strain.

Today, her vision is to build the Back To You Method™ into an internationally recognized framework that supports families, professionals, and organizations around the world.

Reconciliation Awaits

Ready to Take the First Step?

Every family dynamic is unique. We provide custom intake assessments to review your circumstances, ensuring our advisory programs are safe, aligned, and constructive.

01 Apply Online

Complete a brief, confidential questionnaire.

02 Consultation

A detailed review session with a senior mediator.

03 Begin Method

Receive customized materials and strategic support.

Apply for Support

Absolutely private & secure assessment.